Dreams

Did you have any nightmares recently? I can’t remember any of mine. According to a recent study by University of Montreal researchers “when men have nightmares, they tend to dream about earthquakes, wars or other calamities. When women do, their nightmares are about humiliation or interpersonal conflicts”. (for more : the guardian.com)

Now you have a fair idea as who is always fighting and creating havoc and who is always getting humiliated! One can believe what I just said if our dreams are true. Sadly that is not the case.

How many dreams we have while we sleep? Some we remember distinctly, some vaguely. There could be many which we don’t even remember. All of us have dreams of some nature or other. Good thing is that, they come absolutely free, no extra effort involved from us.

Funny dreams are the ones I would like to remember forever. I had a funny a dream, many years back. I am lying on the ground, dead. Luckily all people around my body were crying loudly. I was not disappointed there, looked like all felt sad on my demise. Then suddenly a person came forward and made this statement “What a wonderful person he was, this sudden death should not have happened to him”. Guess who that person was. It was me! I have not stopped praising myself even after my death!!

Once I heard my wife screaming. I woke up and found that I am holding her hair tight. Then only I realized that I was not catching hand of that thief who tried to break into my house. The thief had entered my old village home in my dream. I am not sure whether my wife is fully convinced with my story! To all of you, a good tip to take some revenge on your spouse! Then you can say " I swear, I never thought of harming you, even in my dreams !

Dream is some thing one has no control on. I cannot go to sleep today telling me that I will have only good and pleasant dreams. Though people say that your mood has a strong influence on what dreams you would have, my experience does not indicate that at all. This is one such instance the parents cannot instruct and expect results from their little ones “don’t dream today, even if you want to, then dream of only nice things” - unlike “don’t play too much, don’t eat ice cream today, don’t touch your nose etc”.

One can wish for a “dream house” or “dream project” or even a “dream girl” and work towards realizing the same in real life. But one cannot wish to have a “dream dream” and then work towards realizing it because it is in a subconscious state of mind!

However one can certainly dream in conscious state of mind. We all know the famous “I have a dream” speech my Martin Luther King Jr. I read somewhere that when Steve Jobs was approached by Disney executive for advice, he just told “Dream Bigger”.  

One should dream. One should dream big. But do not keep dreaming that the “Big dream” will somehow become true. There should be constant effort from you to enthuse all stake holders including you and keep working towards realizing that dream.

It is 930 PM. Time for me to get some dreams, hopefully no nightmares. Happy weekend !